i noticed this posted and started reading this article, this is interesting
"Intruders
When a stepparent begins to enter a child's life, that person is often viewed by the child as an intruder. Not only has this person replaced the child's other parent, but their presence also implies that there is no chance for the child's original parents to reunite. When the child remembers the parent that has been replaced, it creates a sense of dislike towards the new stepparent. Their future actions represent those feelings of dislike. Again, the child is often unaware of why he/she feels that way or how to express it."
its terrible to think of how many kids are trying to deal with feelings but dont realize hwere they are coming from
Went from long time bachelor to step parent of four
Three girls, one boy. That is what I fell in to after twenty years of bachelorhood. And they were not the most trusting kids, with good reason. It's not easy being young and have a new male face to answer to in the house.
They were a stubborn brood, outgoing, opinionated. When that time of month came for the girls (and my new wife) it was like living in an estrogen ocean.
They are all grown now, doing very well at life. I think the one thing I did that won them over is to not desert them. I wanted to strangle them at times, but I stuck to the job and admitted I wasn't perfect. I treated them with kindness and consistancy. And that did the trick.
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