Secret17
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posted on 07-19-2004 at 07:23 |
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How long...?
What is everyone's opinion on how long a couple should be dating before they can have sex relationship? How do you know when that becomes a possibility in a relationship?Or it's better not to have sex before wedding? I understand it's different for everybody, but I'm curious to see what people think...
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auntpolly
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posted on 07-19-2004 at 08:34 |
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Plently of girls wait until marraige and I guess it's great.
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2_crazy
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posted on 07-19-2004 at 08:56 |
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I know what a lot of people are going to say. "ont have sex, untill you are ready or married" but let me explain. ok, i have a lot of freinds who are having sex, and i am feeling left out. i am dating someone who really cares about me, and i am thinking of having sex with him. my friends and i talk about sex all the time and we think that sex is just a thing you do with boys. its not a big deal. AS LONG as you protect yourself--which i am planning on doing. doi you think i should have sex or not? p.s. what do you think the youngest age is to have sex? thanks
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Old_Fashioned
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Registered: 07-04-2004 Location: Rhode Island, USA
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posted on 07-19-2004 at 19:17 |
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It is a big deal to 2_crazy
Losing your virginty can only happen once. If you want to lose it to some guy you may never see again go right ahead. It is your choice. I have spoken to many adults though who are now married and regret they lost their virginty for simple pleasure and lust. They always feel regretful because they most of the time wish they saved it for the man they married. Todays modern culture allows us to think sex is ok. Do it with everyone and everybody! Do it with different races and so forth. I blame the current society of world for the rise in divorce. Society has made sex more of a commodity than a sacred act between two people who love each other. People marry now because one maybe good in looks and money. It is as if love don't exist.
So to answer your question Secret, I think it is best to wait until you know you are getting married for a fact and it is planned. Ofcourse, you can wait for the honeymoon too. And for 2_crazy, the best age is pretty much the same answer for Secret.
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Rkyeun
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posted on 11-25-2004 at 07:12 |
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I'm not going to say there is a youngest age for sex. I will say I have very strict rules regarding the type, quality, and intensity of relationship which must develop before sex can be considered, and admit that these qualities are extremely unlikely to be found in those of a young age.
Age only affects the body. Experience affects the mind. And the two can occur at vastly different rates. Physically, the act can be pleasurable quite young indeed. But it is meaningless unless the mind can understand it and graps it, and often downright dangerous. Mentally, the mind must understand the full nature of sexuality, of comittment, to know what's going on, to cherish it, to respect what it means to have the offer made, and be ready to embark on a new life with that person, to be forever joined. Most youths will not be able to grasp these concepts. To those that can, I will not discriminate against them because their age doesn't happen to be on a certain side of some imaginary line drawn in the sand.
Get to know the person you're thinking about expressing your love with. Look at their family. Look at the way they treat you. Do you want the family you create to be like that? Do you have the means to support yourself and create that family? Is that your dream?
Out of all the world, you are expected to choose one to love through all of eternity, to experience heaven and suffer hell with. It can take time, and indeed you have plenty of it. Take your time and choose wisely. I hope you find someone worthy of you.
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