My partner wants to try ropes, chains, straps and I feel that he is "dominant". Honestly speaking I think a lot about it but something just stops me. Maybe I am afrid of him or don't trust him? But every time I imagine me being bound I become very agressive and at the same time I don't want to be "dominant" neither "submissive". What can I do with myself if I really want to try all this? I feel it is a very important step in our sexual relationships...
I think you both need discuss this point. You should be honest and decide if you trust your partner or not. From the other hand why not to try something new? One day you are Mistress, next day he is Master. Any way you can stop playing if you don't like it. But I hope the game is worth to try it.
Discussing S&M games with your partner is not always easy, especially if one or both of you are new to S&M. If your partner is a total novice whom you are trying to introduce to these games, you might want to refer to them as fantasy play rather than as S&M, and you should start out with things that are light, romantic and playful rather than heavy or intense.
For the beginning you might enjoy a light spanking or sensual bondage. Offer your partner to switch roles. Hope you' ll like it.
The classic form of love bondage is with a silk scarf. Unfortunately, as sexy and romantic as that sounds, it is a poor choice of material. A silk scarf will tighten very easily, cutting off circulation. A much better and safer material for bondage is thick, soft nylon rope. It is not only visually appealing, but reasonably comfortable as well. The thicker the diameter of the rope, the more comfortable the restraint will be. Any rope 5/8" or thicker is generally comfortable for bondage.
In bondage, as in every other S&M activity, exercise caution. Always make sure that your partner's circulation is not being cut off by touching his or her hands and feet every few minutes. If they have grown noticeably colder, circulation is being impaired and you should loosen the bonds. Never put any kind of pressure on someone's throat with bondage or with a collar. Never leave someone unattended in bondage for more than a few minutes. If your partner's hands are tied behind his or her back, do not allow a sudden change of position that puts pressure on the arms, as it is easy to dislocate a shoulder in this position. In case of an emergency such as fire or earthquake, keep a pair of shears on hand so that you can IMMEDIATELY release someone from bondage. It is always better to be safe than sorry.
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