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girlwithquestions

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posted on 07-29-2006 at 07:06

how do i tell him?

ok, for the record i'm 15.. and my boyfriend is 17. we've talked about having sex before but i dont know if i'm ready for something like that, however he is.i feel as if im too young for that and i am kind of scared. i know i should tell him i'm not ready but i tried before and he said he would be gentil. At the time i said i was ok with that but i'm really not. How do i tell him that im not ready without him pressuring me more?

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luckycharmsuntouched

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posted on 07-29-2006 at 22:24

Girl with questions,

You owe this boy you are dating nothing. If you feel like you are not ready, then you should not have sex. Guys at the age of 17 are highly unaware of the effects of sex emotionally on a girl. He seems to be very insensitive by pressuring you into having sex with him.

I too have been in a relationship where I felt pressured to move faster than I wanted to physically. It in the long run made me feel bad about the situation because I felt I could have made better choices.

I know its hard especially in a dating situation to say "no" because you want to believe that the other party is taking your feelings into considerattion and that they have your best interest at heart. I know that you have placed a lot of trust in your boyfriend and hope that he is encouraging you to make the right decisions.

You need to let him know that you are not ready to have sex and if he still persists on pressuring you or continues to ask you when you think you are going to be ready, then I would break off the relationship. If he really cares about you then he will respect your decision to abstain and discontinue his "quest". If he continues pressuring you, this shows his insecurities and how much of a jerk he is.

Remember, you desserve a guy who is going to date you even if you decide not to be physical with them. This is your choice. Stand your ground. He should be concerned about how you are feeling about sex. If you are too afraid to voice your true opinions to him, then why are you with him in the first place?

Love yourself first, look out for yourself. This is something you want to give away when YOU are ready. This is a very special act so dont let anyone make you feel as though you need to be physical with them in any way shape or form for them to stay with you.

This guy is NOT worth your time if he cannot understand the word "NO"

I hope this was helpful... good luck!

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